Most people despise the idea of being alone and try to avoid it as much as possible. In times of loneliness and isolation, most tend to treat it as a bad thing. Being surrounded by people who were terrified of the idea of being lonely influenced me into feeling the same exact way. However, I resisted the pressure of jumping into relationships once loneliness hit, and I tried to prevent myself from ever depending on a boy when things got tough. I’m not saying being dependent on a guy is so wrong, but it’s wrong if your intentions started from feeling lonely. Not only are you disrespecting the guy, but you’re doing the same to yourself because you were too weak to stand alone, and now you’re using a guy for your own selfishness. My words may come off harsh, but I feel that it is very important to pursue the idea that loneliness is not as bad as everyone portrays it to be. To me, loneliness is defined as the act of isolating yourself away from the world and allows the freedom to get to know yourself without being distracted by the many things this world has to offer. Distractions of the world can involve anything related to drama with family/friends, issues with… View Post

I remember listening to preacher, Joyce Meyer, being blunt and honest about hearing people’s testimonies. Joyce mentioned that when she was younger, she found it hard to be happy for the people around her that were continuously being blessed. She would try so hard to be happy for her friends, but couldn’t however much she tried. She finally realized when she took a look at her own life, that she was not happy with herself. Sometimes we find ourselves resenting people for their success and happiness when it all starts with our own happiness. As I began to look at my own life, I realized in order to be happy for others, I would have to start by being happy with myself. The same way goes for love because you can never truly love someone, until you start loving yourself first, before anything. I found it extremely difficult to truly be happy for others and to be honest, It made me feel more content to hear their failures rather than their testimonies. I can already hear the many people reading this and thinking “What the hell is wrong with this girl”. But you have to truly ask yourself, have you never… View Post

|INDEPENDENCE| Not surprisingly, in my first blog we’re going to discuss independence and why it is a crucial characteristic to have. I have found myself dependent on many things that have failed me in the past. The moment I found true independence was not in a blissful state of mind, but in a lonely dark stage of my life where I truly lost myself. Pretty much every girl experiences heartbreaks, either from a boyfriend, crush, best friend, family member, or even a stranger. Not my first, but my biggest heartbreak came from a friend. I put all my dependence on that one friend and felt secure with him. Once he had gotten into a relationship, he had ended his friendship with me for reasons that will never justify his right to do so. That is when I completely lost myself because I lost my sense of security and togetherness. Since I had put all my trust and dependence on an imperfect person who ended up failing, I failed myself above all because I wasn’t Independent. Being independent doesn’t mean it’s a numbing remedy to hide away the hurt because that’s not what it’s for. Independence may not take away the… View Post